tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5206900728888530003.post1152955556359022226..comments2023-12-18T22:27:29.665-08:00Comments on Awful Goodness: Getting Gay Married: The RingsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13729898503606762185noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5206900728888530003.post-87872639671164177122012-12-30T08:19:43.544-08:002012-12-30T08:19:43.544-08:00Heather,
I love how people's responses are hel...Heather,<br />I love how people's responses are helping me liberate myself from the chains of a traditional wedding - homemade pies sound delish. In Mexico, there's a tradition where the bride has one cake and the groom has another one, and Rafael and I might co-opt that. I'm trying to figure out if I can get the caterer to make the Stilton Blue Cheesecake that I made for my dinner party. And I think Rafael wants something with some spicy Mexican chocolate.<br /><br />I also love what you wrote about being in an intercultural, interfaith relationship. One of the reasons that I think there are so many of those relationships among gays, as well as relationships that span age or class, is that when gender is a "like," one is drawn to other "unlike" elements to create that balance.<br /><br />About swimming - every time I'm watching an action/adventure movie, I try to figure out the point at which I wouldn't make it. It almost always has something to do with water. I have some memories of swimming in the Mediterranean as a child, but I didn't like the chlorine in the pools when we go to the States, and much like Hebrew, disuse atrophied the skill.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13729898503606762185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5206900728888530003.post-26674403011415872012012-12-30T05:43:56.786-08:002012-12-30T05:43:56.786-08:00Beautiful post. Your rings are simply inspired. ...Beautiful post. Your rings are simply inspired. I agree about weddings and doing what you want. I think being in an intercultural, interfaith (even if half of the inter is zero-faith) relationship also forces you to rethink all the givens. I didn't want (or believe in) a white wedding dress, then I learned that widowed Indian women wear white saris, so I wore a raspberry-colored dress instead. We didn't want a wedding cake, and opted for homemade pies by family members instead. As for favors, bah! Didn't even think of them and honestly I don't think anyone cared. You're throwing them a fabulous party, why do they need a gift as well? I can't wait to see how the rest of your planning unfolds. In the meantime: you can't swim!?Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09247274938469798605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5206900728888530003.post-59496017858880323952012-12-24T01:14:33.587-08:002012-12-24T01:14:33.587-08:00Amy - this is such good advice. The favors things...Amy - this is such good advice. The favors things has been really stressing us out also, and your solution does feel so much better than some cheap knickknack that people will have to resent for taking up space in their homes. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13729898503606762185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5206900728888530003.post-79109702235404105272012-12-23T09:07:53.704-08:002012-12-23T09:07:53.704-08:00I'm so happy to get to see your ring - and so ...I'm so happy to get to see your ring - and so happy you had soccer yesterday so I didn't have time to spill the beans! <br /><br />Heteros can also use a dose of your advice on rethinking expectations. I remember being so worried that people would "expect" favors and be sad not to have them. In the end we had three charities and gave everyone little forms to fill out where they circled the charity of their choice. Then we donated a sum to each charity for each guest that chose them. It's hard, though, to stay clearheaded amidst the insane hoopla of the wedding mafia.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04524845331441926674noreply@blogger.com